*names have been changed A version of this article was published in 2016.
“If you would like to find a nice partner, then I suggest you date long enough to see whether your date has the qualities that you need in order to be fulfilled in a long-term relationship before you become intimate.” Flirt coach Peter agrees, saying that as long as both parties are happy, there is no Swiss-specific rule about whether you sleep together on the first date or after 20.
Speaking to The Local, Trea Tijmens, owner of dating, matchmaking and date coaching service Success Match, says it takes effort to meet the Swiss – and even longer to engage in a trusting relationship.
“If love doesn’t happen instantly, we are disappointed and are out of there,” the dating expert says, emphasizing that investing time pays dividends.
Soon after he started dating a Swiss, Frenchman Martin* realized he was expected to keep his distance.
“She would suggest meeting up only every two weeks, even though we didn’t live far from each other,” he says.